Watching my children discover charitable giving is the greatest gift so far


Not just one of my children likes to cook, another does too. When he does cook, it is for dishes which require precision.  More of a baker, a rather precise art, it suits their character.  They are demonstrating executive leanings. They recently led a kitchen brigade. Proud papa.

It is even more of a delight to behold the seeds of charitable giving taking hold.  A group of my child’s friends decided to put on a charity dinner in support of homelessness in the area where they live.   This involved everything.  There was the kitchen part, sure—menu planning, sourcing, etc.  But there was also donations, gifts, discounted sourcing, venue, and pulling off an evening for over 100 people.  Not bad for a group of teenagers.  

They raised well over £10,000.  My child had designed the menu and then played the part of executive chef, plating and expediting through the evening.  Another child had done the hard graft of boning and filleting wild-caught duck and removing buck shot.

It is wonderful that they have both found passion in the culinary arts…a source of great life pleasure and therapy.  But this is nothing compared to how I felt in seeing them orchestrate and lead an evening for charity.   It makes me cry even now to think about how fortunate I am to have children that already think this way…that those who have can give, should give, should help.

I rocked boy mode that night.  Some of their mates even told them that I was “drip”—apparently the term for a natty dresser.  Not one item in my “boy mode” was made for men…it was all stealth lady duds.  I was happy about that.

My wife, equally proud, sat at the other end of the room.  We did not acknowledge each other.

When I bid at the auction on two of the lesser items (had to bid even if I’m broke) I bid to win.  And I could see delight in their smiles as I won—paying way over the odds for two delightful picnic baskets from you know which retailer in London.  Why two?  One for me, and one for you.

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    1. Hi…thanks. I am not sure that I taught them, or how you teach such things. Maybe they watch. But more than anything they might achieve in academics or sports or other fields, this resonates most of all.

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  1. i think children SHOW a lot more AWARENESS /UNDERSTANDING than Adults do ..OUR CHILDREN 3 BOYS AND ONE GIRL are VERY ..THINKABLE ..Than most are .MARK.X

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    1. they sure do…starting with their sense of wonder and innocence. When you look at the world with wonder in your eyes and in your heart, that is what you get back. An enlightened adult protects this sense in children for as long as possible, before society and life events take it away…but it is a vital store of strength that helps us grow into effective adults. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Hi Mark…unfortunately I do not. My wife is leaving me for being transgender, for being a “sexual deviant”. Who knows, she may have already found someone else. Who knows, she may want someone with more certain economic prospects. You are fortunate that she is understanding.

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  2. VERY TRUE .How are you coping .BUT IF BEING TRANS -MAKES YOU HAPPY .this is the way..are you seeing Mistress SHE has been HELP for you.does Mistress do a Blog /Newsletter or on Twitter .i am HERE Chat any time if you like too .MARK.X

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  3. ask..mistress IF she or he UNAWARE ,.would like too see YOU .OFTEN..or Less .I THINK OFTEN /MORE .Ask them, i think it has been helping you a great deal.MARK.X .i AM HERE FOR..CHAT..X

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  4. YOU said it yourself IT IS GOOD ,ASK HER/HIM .i think Mistress will say YES,.,Mistress has SAID TOO YOU THAT SHE/HE would like YOUR RUNNY SNOT OVER HER/HIM .. I THINK SHE/HE WOULD LIKE TO DO THE SAME TOO .YOU ..ASK HER/HIM .if you do not ask .they will only say YES or NO . i think Mistress will say YES .i follow you on twitter. are You on Tick-Tok.Medium. Linkendin .I AM ON THESE ..,I, THINK YOU CAN TELL ..I. AM A ..FAN..OF YOU AND MISTRESS ,Any time you like a chat i am here.MARK.X

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    1. Hi Mark…thank you for your comment. I am not on these other platforms you mention. I do have an instagram, but I never post anything to it. I am so grateful to the wonderful women whom I have gotten to meet through BDSM. They are such magical people and have helped me to change my life in such enormously positive ways. Hope you are well.

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    1. Hi Mark. I am not sure which photo you are referring to…there are a couple of pictures on this blog that are of me, but I don’t put them up so often, and I almost always hide my face in one way or another…

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  5. MOST DAYS .I am in great deal Pain .BECAUSE I have BOTH M.E . AND FIBROMAGYIA ..I, AM ALIVE. DO YOU get People Stairing Bad Remarks when you say go in a shop too Buy Bras Knickers .,MARK.X

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    1. Hi Mark…I am sorry to hear that you are in pain. That makes you doubly strong to be here, and I thank you for it. To answer your question, no, nobody has ever made me feel bad about buying knickers. When I used to be shy about it, they might have thought something but they kept it to themselves. Now I just walk up to one of the saleswomen and ask for her help. And the experience is much better as a result. They take great trouble to make me feel comfortable, have helped me with putting them on, finding sizes, choosing patterns, giving advice, and just being understanding. It has been great.

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  6. how are you.i, am from England /if i have not said .are you from America ..do YOU try Different Bras .here in England they have different ones BUT THIS ONE OPENS AT THE.FRONT . so no trouble putting it on .seeing at the back.I SO HATE THIS. MORE COMFY AS WELL.mark.x

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  7. HELLO. How do Your Parents .sister brother TREAT YOU .Did they Help in any way.or make it a lot Worse .YOU Seeing .mistress Soon .,MARK.X

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